F4ithl3ss Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 My best friend started smoking pot about 5 times a day 3 months ago, and since then he's done acid and coke one time. He's getting really deep into shit and to make money he's been car hopping (breaking into cars) and I'm worried about him because his parents are fighting about it, they are soon to get divorced he says, but he doesn't think he has anything to do with it. Anyway, he's my best friend and I want to help him but he does what he wants to do all the time, no matter what anyone thinks. I tried talking to him to let him know I went down that path once before and he doesn't seem to take in to consideration anything that I told him. He thinks it's no big deal when really it is. Advice? I'm just venting right now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hobbes Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 I don't like your kind around here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seboard Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 One of my best friend ended up like that too I tried to help him but you know when someone doesn't want to listen So I told him : Well I tried, but I can't control your life so if you're dumb enough to do this, it's your choice. And I didn't talk to him since when because he didn't change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F4ithl3ss Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 One of my best friend ended up like that tooI tried to help him but you know when someone doesn't want to listen So I told him : Well I tried, but I can't control your life so if you're dumb enough to do this, it's your choice. And I didn't talk to him since when because he didn't change. He's my best friend though dude, I can't just drop him like that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
n1ckkkkk Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 (edited) A person can only change if they want to change Nothing anyone says or does will change that Either he straightens up or thats it You shouldnt have friends that are into drugs Edited May 28, 2010 by bort Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeman Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 He's my best friend though dude, I can't just drop him like that actually thats the best thing you CAN do, people who go down that road have to hit rock bottom before they can see that tiny spec of light at the top, just keep an eye on him from afar or through people he knows. losing a best friend should wake his ass up, and if not when he has no money and friends it will. this is coming from experience btw(not me but 2 of my friends went down your friends road as well as an uncle). He'll usually find his way back through religion or something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tminus Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 I'm gonna be brutally honest if you care about his future next time you see him do coke or break into a car call the police and have him thrown in rehab. From the sound of it his parents have no control and unless you do something drastic now then theres no stopping him from doing terrible terrible crap later on. Trust me take action now or lose your friend forever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F4ithl3ss Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 A person can only change if they want to changeNothing anyone says or does will change that Either he straightens up or thats it You shouldnt have friends that are into drugs All else fails an hero Well, I was friends with him before he was into drugs, and you can't judge a person by what they do, that's ignorant. Maybe he's using drugs as self-medication for something I don't know about? He's been having problems with his parents for the past year. Don't judge what you don't know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F4ithl3ss Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 I'm gonna be brutally honest if you care about his future next time you see him do coke or break into a car call the police and have him thrown in rehab. From the sound of it his parents have no control and unless you do something drastic now then theres no stopping him from doing terrible terrible crap later on. Trust me take action now or lose your friend forever. His dad told me if he keeps it up he plans on calling the cops on him. He's a cool kid and he's a nice guy, but he's just going down a dark path Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tminus Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 His dad told me if he keeps it up he plans on calling the cops on him. He's a cool kid and he's a nice guy, but he's just going down a dark path If the dad doesn't manage to work things out then make sure you do something. My friend was doing the same crap and he got arrested a little while back haven't really been the same since. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F4ithl3ss Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 If the dad doesn't manage to work things out then make sure you do something. My friend was doing the same crap and he got arrested a little while back haven't really been the same since. TBH, it's just pretty painful to watch my best friend go down this road, it's hard to watch and deal with. When I try to talk to him he just ignores what I'm talking about so I guess if that's what it takes, I'll have to do it. He might hate me for it but atleast he won't be mindfucked off acid like some of the people he hangs out with Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tminus Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 TBH, it's just pretty painful to watch my best friend go down this road, it's hard to watch and deal with. When I try to talk to him he just ignores what I'm talking about so I guess if that's what it takes, I'll have to do it. He might hate me for it but atleast he won't be mindfucked off acid like some of the people he hangs out with Trust me he'l hate your guts for a while but when he realizes how you saved him from going down a terrible path its hard to describe how much he'l appreciate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clams Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Faithless I have had friends just like this and I was in the same situation there's nothing really you can do till he bounces back around. I had to drop my best friend of 12 years because he got into heavy drugs breaking into houses cars and such and I had to stop talking to him when i got arrested with him. Just don't get brought down with him that's all I can say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F4ithl3ss Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 Faithless I have had friends just like this and I was in the same situation there's nothing really you can do till he bounces back around. I had to drop my best friend of 12 years because he got into heavy drugs breaking into houses cars and such and I had to stop talking to him when i got arrested with him. Just don't get brought down with him that's all I can say. I'm already on probation, I'm not doin shit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stonewall Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 When someone like him begins to walk down that kind of path you can only deal with them in absolutes. Tell him that you do not approve of his decisions. Simply tell him that the next time he does one of these things that you are gonna have to call the authorities. Then stress your concerns about your friendship, let him know that you are unsure if you will be able to continue to be friends. If he continues then you have to make a move and kinda step back and wait for him to decide. More than likely he will continue, at that point (and this is from experience as well) you should stop talking to him. That will be the hard part but I assure you that you will become nothing more than an en-abler and further show support for his ways (in his eyes). A true friend, that wants to see his friend become better would do something to this effect...This worked for a friend of mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox* Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 ok Faithless, My sister SISTER went down the same old road. My dad tried convincing her that its not the right path. It took her a while to find out ( the hard way). So i see what your feelin. The best thing to do is turn him in. Cause my sister had been turned in once and she changed her drug addiction. Yea maybe she smokes a little of weed here and there but thats fine. So told me if i EVER went down that road, the best she said to me was either turn yourself in or listen to others and think about your own future ahead of you. MY sis now has a daughter and a cool bf, she lives happy now. So maybe my post was retarted......but the real way is the alternative way faithless. Hes got to see the light just like my sister did, she didn't want to change, your best friend doesn't want to change. Only then let him think, its not our power that controls one another its yourself that controls you. That's the weakness he has now....himself. So give him time to think through it, let him see the anger in his parents of what MAYBE he caused. If his parents are what caused him to do this, then he needs to go TALK to someone about the problem and not hiding it like a little Justin beiber....the real only thing is expressing his feeling to other people to solve. We are only humans......we can't do anything in this obamanation... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clams Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 I'm already on probation, I'm not doin shit I got arrested when i was on probation and not doing shit but you smoke? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F4ithl3ss Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 Nah I don't smoke or do any drugs, I drink if you want to consider that a drug, which it technically is Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cr(+)sshair Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 No, don't talk to him about it, turn him him, or anything. Get him doing a hobby while you still can. Chill with him at fun places like an arcade and shit, remind him of his childhood! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clams Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Or quit talking to him and when says what the fuck where are you tell him straight out maybe he will get his head on right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oblongs Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 my bro was like that to he started smokin it then he started selling well short story is he ended up owing some guy 2000 $ and my brother didnt have it at the time and so he disappeared for while and i started to get the wrap for it they started asking me for money and i told em to go fuck them selfs cause it wasnt my problem.... well i went to go to my truck one day in the school parking lot and i came to 4 guys standing around my truck... they asked for the money told em i didnt have it and they wherent getting it from me... got the living shit kicked out of me and when i went home my brother was there and i told him what happened and i told him it was his turn to face the music and deal with it and i turned my back on my own bro... moral the story is you got to let them experience the bad side of the situation my brother doesnt smoke or sell anymore Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fdh Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Well, I was friends with him before he was into drugs, and you can't judge a person by what they do, that's ignorant. Maybe he's using drugs as self-medication for something I don't know about? He's been having problems with his parents for the past year. Don't judge what you don't know Sounds like you are making excuses for him in an attempt to avoid processing the fact that he doesn't give a crap. But what do I know Essentially, if you want him to drop it, he'll need to face some consequences, whether that's through the law or losing his best friend til he's clean. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingless Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 This entire thread pisses me off, from OP's rationalizations of his friend's behavior (Can't judge people based on their actions? Seriously?) to Fox's ignorant political commentary. Look, we've all known people that are usually authentically good people, but end up in a series of shitty situations, completely by their own doing. We've had this conversation about pot before, and I remind you that it's not chemically addictive by medical definition, but it is habituating. So your friend has a mental fixation on getting high. Why? Is he depressed? Is he experimenting? Is he bored? Is he beating himself up over the divorce? I'll tell you firsthand (thrice, actually) that he needs to suck it up, learn that he (probably) doesn't have anything to do with it and learn to adapt. It's not the end of the world, and it's absolutely not the worst thing that's ever going to happen to him. One way or the other, you can try your best to go out and provide a distraction for him, but you can only do so much. At one point, you need to stop answering his calls, or check him in to rehab. You do it because you care, not because you can't handle it. Jail and rehab is better than taking too much acid and dying. You also have your own ass to cover; you're going to jail if you're there while he's committing crimes. I wouldn't get caught for MIP, either. That's usually a probation violation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toxygen Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Try to turn him around man, if he was still just smoking pot it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but I know the type. Start with pot because it's cheap, then go onto harder drugs, I have a friend that's the same way, not much you can do but try to turn him around and if he doesn't listen there's not much else to do... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F4ithl3ss Posted May 28, 2010 Author Share Posted May 28, 2010 My friend and I were talking today. He quit doing shit 5 days ago because he started doing boxing. He quit smoking pot, and all the other drugs he started, but he started taking hits again from his bong when friends came over. Over the past 5 days, he took 3 or 4 hits from it, and kept letting himself down. So about 30 minutes ago, he said fuck it, you're right when I told him to stop and he grabbed his bong, in front of all his druggie friends, I followed him asking wtf he's doing and he smashed it all over the street, I think I've got my friend back Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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