How Would You Handle Long Distance?

[EmberFrost]

I'm in a long distance relationship, as surprising as it is.

 

I haven't seen her in over 7 months and it's kind of killing me.

 

I am going to see her however this coming October.

 

I'm not going to go into the details, However i would like your thoughts on long distance relations

 

Your opinions on long distance relations in general, and how to handle them.

 

Throw in some jokes about me being in a relationship if you want too as well, I don't mind a laugh

[VooDooVonz]

My wife and I had a long distance relationship right after high school. I joined the Navy in 1989 and she went off to college. It all depends on trust. You have to be true to each other. Any kind of jealous tendacies will destroy it. Sadly we were still kind of immature in those days. I never cheated on her. I was so smitten with her I couldn't think of anyone else. Yet not knowing what each other was doing and unable to talk regulary finally broke us up. She was surrounded by guys constantly asking her out. She finally succumbed when a Doctor she was working with ask her out. We broke up for 2 years in 1994. He wasn't the prince charming he appeared to be though. After I got back from service we started talking again.

 

I know it sounds pathetic but I never gave up thinking we would get back together. We did and have been married 19 years. It was a hard road in the beginning. In the end, it all worked out. All in all we both do not count those 2 years we were apart due to it being a huge struggle for us both. He was jealous of me even though he had her. She couldn't get over me. Plus he was a douche and cheated on her twice with a nurse.

 

The best advice I can give, is give each other space and trust in each other. I was a real rage hard back in those days. I was very protective of her. My problem was I got jealous when she would go out with her friends. I had found out about a couple of guys that were pursuing her. I actually drove her away with my petty jealous rage.

 

You do have one advantage we never had. Social media, email and cell phones can really bridge the gap that we didn't have back then. Just live your lives, go out with friends and just stay in touch. Simple little messages on the phone to let them know you miss them and talk when you can.

 

Sorry about the long boring and kinda embarassing story of my life. I know how hard it was for me back then and hopefully this story will help you.

[ASCII]

My wife and I had a long distance relationship right after high school. I joined the Navy in 1989 and she went off to college. It all depends on trust. You have to be true to each other. Any kind of jealous tendacies will destroy it. Sadly we were still kind of immature in those days. I never cheated on her. I was so smitten with her I couldn't think of anyone else. Yet not knowing what each other was doing and unable to talk regulary finally broke us up. She was surrounded by guys constantly asking her out. She finally succumbed when a Doctor she was working with ask her out. We broke up for 2 years in 1994. He wasn't the prince charming he appeared to be though. After I got back from service we started talking again.

 

I know it sounds pathetic but I never gave up thinking we would get back together. We did and have been married 19 years. It was a hard road in the beginning. In the end, it all worked out. All in all we both do not count those 2 years we were apart due to it being a huge struggle for us both. He was jealous of me even though he had her. She couldn't get over me. Plus he was a douche and cheated on her twice with a nurse.

 

The best advice I can give, is give each other space and trust in each other. I was a real rage hard back in those days. I was very protective of her. My problem was I got jealous when she would go out with her friends. I had found out about a couple of guys that were pursuing her. I actually drove her away with my petty jealous rage.

 

You do have one advantage we never had. Social media, email and cell phones can really bridge the gap that we didn't have back then. Just live your lives, go out with friends and just stay in touch. Simple little messages on the phone to let them know you miss them and talk when you can.

 

Sorry about the long boring and kinda embarassing story of my life. I know how hard it was for me back then and hopefully this story will help you.

^^^^^ This to the fullest. Trust is important, not every man or woman deserve's it, and jealousy will drive anyone of importance away. I have comforted many women who were in a long distance relationships.

 

 

Well, some are. Those are the keepers.

[UnPrePared_]

Doesn't work that well when you're young (14-18ish)

After that it gets better since you will have more money and prob a car to go to her/him.

 

a long distance relationship has never worked for me but right now im 19 and not that interessed in relationships

[EmberFrost]

My wife and I had a long distance relationship right after high school. I joined the Navy in 1989 and she went off to college. It all depends on trust. You have to be true to each other. Any kind of jealous tendacies will destroy it. Sadly we were still kind of immature in those days. I never cheated on her. I was so smitten with her I couldn't think of anyone else. Yet not knowing what each other was doing and unable to talk regulary finally broke us up. She was surrounded by guys constantly asking her out. She finally succumbed when a Doctor she was working with ask her out. We broke up for 2 years in 1994. He wasn't the prince charming he appeared to be though. After I got back from service we started talking again.

 

I know it sounds pathetic but I never gave up thinking we would get back together. We did and have been married 19 years. It was a hard road in the beginning. In the end, it all worked out. All in all we both do not count those 2 years we were apart due to it being a huge struggle for us both. He was jealous of me even though he had her. She couldn't get over me. Plus he was a douche and cheated on her twice with a nurse.

 

The best advice I can give, is give each other space and trust in each other. I was a real rage hard back in those days. I was very protective of her. My problem was I got jealous when she would go out with her friends. I had found out about a couple of guys that were pursuing her. I actually drove her away with my petty jealous rage.

 

You do have one advantage we never had. Social media, email and cell phones can really bridge the gap that we didn't have back then. Just live your lives, go out with friends and just stay in touch. Simple little messages on the phone to let them know you miss them and talk when you can.

 

Sorry about the long boring and kinda embarassing story of my life. I know how hard it was for me back then and hopefully this story will help you.

Thanks for the story! Will keep in mind and hopefully it will work out with us as it did with you

[EDGY-AS-FUCK]

Doesn't work that well when you're young (14-18ish)

After that it gets better since you will have more money and prob a car to go to her/him.

 

a long distance relationship has never worked for me but right now im 19 and not that interessed in relationships

 

I think it's because women aren't usually interested in severely autistic man-children

[alexace]

ummm well my exsperince with long distance relationships is there is a lot of trust that goes into it if you like eatch other and are fully trust eatch other then it shouldn't be a problem the problem is created if and when you meet up you find out what she/he told you isn't true and then it creats doubt so you just have to have faith shes telling you the truth that's where Skype comes in handy where you can always talk and texting comes in handy there to

[UnPrePared_]

I think it's because women aren't usually interested in severely autistic man-children

fuck you bigpock

[Johnmau]

fuck you bigpock

HOW THE FUCK YOU KNEW IT WAS BIGPOCK.

PS ITS NOT BIGPOCK

[im.a.girl.btw]

As of others have said before, long distance relationships require a lot of trust and a well developed sense of maturity and self-control. It's hard work but it can be potential rewarding (more so than conventional/typical relationships). That being said, you must be aware that, statistically, most long-distance relationships fail.

 

Whatever you decide to do: just be safe and smart.

Edited August 27, 2015 by Alexandria

[alexace]

yea make sure you don't do something you will regret

[UnPrePared_]

HOW THE FUCK YOU KNEW IT WAS BIGPOCK.

PS ITS NOT BIGPOCK

either one of those memespeak faggs

[kimzy]

Okay here it is, the advice from the one and only Kimzy.

 

My fiance and I have been in a long distance relationship for over 3 years now. In about a month from now, we`re finally closing the distance. I am moving to VA in October to get married to the man of my dreams.

 

We met on the HG tenman server, He was top notch, I sucked cock at the game.

 

Like most people have said already, TRUST each other. If one of you does not trust the other one fully, your relationship will not stand. You cannot control one another like other people do in relationships. You don`t know where they`re at when you`re not on together so you might as well just take their word for it. On the other side, don`t fucking lie. Be open, too. If you`re having a bad day, tell one another, explain why, too. You`re not together in person so if you`re not open and clear misunderstandings WILL happen, and lead to big fights eventually.

 

Try and spend time together, as much as you are BOTH comfortable with. You`ll notice especially in the beginning one of both might want to spend more time online than the other one. Find something that is doable for both (btw, skyping just once every other week is not a good deal. Great things take lots of effort).

If your partner is also into gaming, switch your games up to keep it interesting, watch netflix together (we`re really cute we both have two screens so we can skype on one screen and game or watch tv on the other one. We count down and click play at the same time for movies on netflix.)

Sometimes, just TALK. People talk shit on ldr`s all the time but a fuckload of real life couples split up over LACK OF COMMUNICATION. Other than camsex, you guys only have that one thing you can really spend time with, talking. Have conversations about things that happened during the day, get involved in one another`s lives even if theres thousands of miles in between you both.

Clint and I, for example, are 4068 miles apart, that is over 6000kilometers, aka a fuckload.

 

Figure away to deal with the time difference if there is any. We`re six hours apart, which means, yes I was late for work a few times in the beginning, and yes, I have pulled allnighters just for the sake of love and skyping with the man of my life.

 

A BIG ONE I`m going to tell you is, STAY AWAY FROM ONLINE DRAMA. When my man and I just started dating, some frustrated little trolls, former hg people, tried to get in between us, like what is this middle school? We had a rough time taping the pieces back together, we had ugly fights, but once that was all over we both took a big step back from the source of drama (hg at that time, could be something else for y`all) and worked on OUR connection. Also, don`t tell anything about your private convo`s or skype sessions to your buddies just to brag. They will get jealous of the time you spend together or they will just not like your partner, and snitch on your ass, believe me, everything you spread could later on be used against you.

 

ANOTHER big one. Be your true self. If you want your LDR to at one point become more than an LDR, please don`t lie about things in your life, cause once you guys get together for real, it`ll get awkward, don`t catfish anyone.

 

Make plans to see one another as soon as you say goodbye. It will give you something to hold on to and make the wait less sickening and saddening. When my fiance and I had to part, every time, I pretty much collapsed, it was horrible, nothing I have ever felt before.

The day after he got back home though we started making plans for another visit, although in the far future, it gave us both something to hold on to.

 

Surprise one another, your ways of keeping things nice and fun and exciting are limited, so surprise one another. Send a little package without telling them, order them something they wanted without telling them (if you have enough income, if not, don`t steal your parents credit card, plox), but don`t overdo it. I see plenty of e-girls abusing guys that way, and I see so many guys falling for it not realizing they`re being scammed, pretty much. It has to be going both ways. Don`t send present after present if you don`t get anything back lol. Surprising can also be with little cute messages, or a picture, something simple can warm a heart.

 

Don`t listen to the whole "ldr`s are meant to fail" they are not immune to failure, but n`either are the "normal" ones. If you love one another and would do anything to be with each other, things will work out in the end.

 

If you have ANY more questions feel free to add me on steam and I do not mind having a chat.

 

OH one more thing: DO NOT SEND NUDIES IF SHE`S UNDERAGE, DO NOT LET HER SEND NUDIES IF SHE IS UNDERAGE, AND DO NOT SEND NUDIES IF YOU ARE NOT FAR ENOUGH IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO TRUST ONE ANOTHER! YOU WILL GET FUCKED OVER IF YOU ARE NOT CAREFUL WITH THIS. But once you know you`re good go ahead and sext and skypesex the night away!

 

We are currently finishing up a visa application for me to come to the USA on a K-1, which is a fiancee visa. Once I arrive there we will have 90 days to get married, which is fine because we`re both ready for that step. Don`t do anything like that until you`re one hundred percent sure. It`s VERY expensive, and it`s a year long battle to even get them in the US, and after you get married, the battle has really only started.

 

 

Signed, a very happy and lucky LDR-fiance.

Everyone is welcome on the first HG wedding soon haha!

x Kimzy

 

PS: You can seriously add me on steam if you need a talk. I know people talk smack, people mock you and make fun behind your back. It`s fucking ROUGH. Everyone on the internet wants a piece, they all wanna be a page in your new love chapter, but just focus on one another. We`ve been through it. Aesopp has ditched numerous friends that kept telling him this wouldn`t work. If you believe, beautiful things can happen.

Good luck!

 

 

sorry, I don`t have a tldr version for you, LDR`s just aren`t easy or simple, hell even normal close distance ones aren`t

[MizzMadelyne]

I think it does work for younger ages people too, heck I've been in one for two years being 16-18. You just gotta have the maturity to handle it. My boyfriend and I are now going to the same university together. And we lived pretty far apart from each other in the beginning. If you're constantly thinking it won't work out, then long distance isn't really for you